Do you take care of yourself?
If your initial respond is "umm," then the answer is no.
If you quickly said yes, let me ask you again, do you take a good care of yourself?
If you still can't figure out, answer these 3 questions below.
From the scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being least often, and 5 as most often, how often do you:
- Do something that you don't really want to?
- Do something with no good reason as to why you were doing it?
- Wish you had said no, but kept it inside and continued on doing whatever it was you're doing?
If by now you had started figuring out that you:
- Had not been good to yourself
- Had been putting others first most of the time; and
- Forgot when was the last time you really had a good time.
It's time, to start taking a good care of yourself.
How to Take Care of Yourself
1. Understand that it is not only okay, but also important.
If you go on the airplane often, you'll know this. In the case of emergency, it is required that you put on the oxygen mask on yourself first, before putting them on anybody else.
If you are not well taken care of, you won't be able to take care of others to your best ability. You owe it to people that you are taking care of, the best and most resourceful, happiest you.
Once you understand this, you will accept it. And that is the beginning.
2. Do things for yourself.
Learn to say no. Do things only when they matter to you.
No need to be a saint or the hero that always saves the day.
Unless you have all the free time in the world and unlimited resources of energy and money, figure out why YOU would do certain things that other requested. Or worse, others EXPECTED OF you. Why?
3. Be kind.
This will sound like a paradox to point #2 above, but stay with me and you will see.
Be generous. Be helpful. Give respect and earn respect.
Give, but don't expect a return. If you're expecting a return, it's business. Put it in writing.
Otherwise, give because it won't matter if you lose it.
Help, because it gives you joy. It = the act of helping or the activity itself. The joy = the look on your loved ones' face, cash prize, or even a recognition.
4. Recognize the differences between "must" and "want".
Everyone has obligation in life. More often than not, obligation doesn't consume 24/7 of your time.
Do what you must do. The rest of the time, do what you want.
If you had done what you must do, don't settle for what you want. You deserve it. As much as everybody else on this earth.
5. Maintain a positive attitude.
Like Mark Twain said, "The world doesn't owe you anything, it was here first."
And Trevor Jones' word, "Nowhere on your birth certificate did it say life would be fair."
Everyone has problems, every lives have circumstances.
Whatever problems come your way, you can make it through.
There is someone, somewhere out there, who were facing a much bigger problem than yours, and they made it through. And so can you.
6. Stay curious - stay humble.
If you need help, ask. Look for those who would benefit from lending you a hand, or answering to your questions.
Nobody knows everything. It is okay to ask questions. More importantly, be open-minded to the answers. Don't make up your mind beforehand, otherwise it's pointless to ask questions.
Ask for help, and if people refuse to help, don't take it personally. They're just taking care of themselves too!
That's why you seek for those who want to receive as well.
7. Maintain a healthy lifestyle.
Physically, and mentally.
Physically: Eat healthy food, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep.
Mentally: Do things that you're passionate about. If you're in relationship, maintain your identity and keep active on your passion. If you're single, enjoy the life without commitment. You are free as wind. That is something you will cherish a few years down the road.
Those are 7 basic steps to start taking care of yourself today.
It won't be easy, but start small, with baby steps, and keep sticking to it.
Once your mindset is developed, putting yourself first in every situations will become a habit.
And it is okay, to take care of yourself first and foremost.
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